Every console has parental controls, and almost nobody sets them up in the first week. The menus are long and the words are vague. This guide cuts them down to four switches that matter, in the order that matters, and lets you plan the setup for your child's age and your console.
Whatever the console, the controls come down to the same four questions.
Time: how long, and until when? Limits can usually be set per day, with a different rule for school nights and weekends. Spending: can your child buy things without asking you? Chat: who can message or talk to your child, and can they share pictures or videos? Age ratings: which games can be started at all? Ratings such as PEGI and ESRB are a guide to the content of a game, not to how hard it is.
Everything else on the menu is detail. If you only have ten minutes, do these four.
All three consoles tie the controls to an adult account that manages the child's account. On PlayStation that adult is the "family manager" and needs their own PlayStation Network account. On Xbox you use a Microsoft family group and the Xbox Family Settings app. On Nintendo Switch you link the console to the free Nintendo Switch Parental Controls app on your phone. Do this first; the settings below live inside it.
Pick your child's age group and your console. You get a starting point for each of the four switches, and where to find it. Tick them off as you go.
Spending and chat are the two with real-world consequences: money you cannot get back easily, and people you do not know. That is why they come early even though time limits feel more urgent. The same is true of age ratings, which stop a game before your child sees it instead of after.
Time limits are the one you will adjust most. A fixed number that you set alone tends to start arguments. A number you agreed together, with an exception for a special occasion, tends to survive. Some consoles, such as the Switch, let you add a few extra minutes on the spot, which helps when a match is nearly over.
Parental controls set on the console do not cover everything. In-game purchases inside a game can be separate from the store limit, so check the game's own settings or keep the store locked. And a child who plays on a phone, tablet or friend's console is outside these rules entirely. Controls help; a conversation helps more.
Child accounts also come with age settings built in. On PlayStation, for example, a new child account starts with settings that match the age you enter, which you can then adjust. Look at what was set instead of trusting the default.
When you set this up, check four things. First, that the child plays on their own account, signed in, since controls only work on a child account. Second, that the adult account has a passcode or two-step sign-in your child cannot guess. Third, that spending is either off or asks you first. Fourth, that you review the settings every few months and after any big game release your child cares about.